clients spreading the love
Alex + Jake
“With two toddlers and one baby on the way, Jake and I knew we needed to do something to prioritize our relationship. It’s so easy to go through the daily motions, go a week without a kiss, or have a simple adult conversation.
Hiring Bob & Shona for the Living in Love Incubator was an incredible investment (we were committed because we put money towards it). It forced us to set aside the time to work on us, was a container to have deep conversations and talk about things we never did before, and gave us so many practical tools for dealing with conflicts between each other and ourselves.
Since group meetings with Bob & Shona were scheduled every other Tuesday, we knew we couldn’t attend calls without distractions with two toddlers running around in the background. Bob & Shona helped us see that we could figure out a way to show up to get the most out of it. We decided to hire our teenage neighbor to babysit every Tuesday evening so that Jake and I could have date night. On our off meeting weeks we would use the time to spend with each other kid free. The best part is we’re still continuing date nights even since our program has ended. This has been a true game changer for our relationship! Not only is our relationship stronger than ever, we are now both on the same page with the dream life we want to create. We are strongly driven to pursue opportunities together which impacts our finances, experiences, and ultimately the legacy we leave for our children.”
Anne Corley
“I went through the Living in Love program with Bob and Shona, and it was life-changing in several ways. Because I was not in a relationship, I took it on as a way to grow and strengthen my relationship with myself, so that when I do end up in a relationship, I’ve done the work on my own stuff and can take that into a new relationship and create it differently than I ever have before.
I have to say, Shona and Bob create an amazingly safe space from the get go. They are compassionate as well as bold. There is no criticism or judgement. Also, they are available to support on an individual basis as needed.
One of the most valuable tools to me was examining what my fundamental need is and creating/discovering the 4 pillars, both for myself and for a future relationship. This helped grow my self-love and acceptance and feel stronger about setting boundaries.
Another “aha” was the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse in communication and the realization that most conversations end up right back where they started if not done differently, and learning how to do it differently.
Some of the exercises were so fun and allowed an opportunity to laugh at myself!
This program was an opportunity to dig deeper in several areas than I ever have before and work on shifting thoughts and stories and getting unstuck. An opportunity to really examine my own inner dialog and change it for the better.
Additionally, the opportunity to get to know the other people in the group and support each other was wonderful! There was great synergy and it was heart-warming watching others grow as well.
This program was incredibly growth producing for me as an individual and I can only imagine how powerful it would be for a couple.
The self-love I created by going through this program has been grounding, comforting and empowering which has had amazing ripple effects throughout all areas of my life where I have relationships with people (work, clients, friends, family, even strangers).
Given all the huge strides I have made, I would totally do this again, and when I end up in a romantic relationship, I may even do it again as a couple!
Bob and Shona do great work as coaches and leaders; they are so full of energy and laughter, it was a joy to work with them for over 6 months and I would work with them again in a heartbeat!”
Addendum: “A year later, I am now in a wonderful relationship with an amazing man and we are working with Bob and Shona again to create the solid foundation we both want.”
Arika + Rick
“Thank you so much for the (Living in Love Incubator) program. It was so impactful for us and we just want to share for a minute kind of our experience to hopefully help other couples decide and just to tell you kind of where we’re at. When we started, our relationship wasn’t good. We’ve been together a long time but we’re just really struggling. We were stuck in a rut! Big time! It felt like things were not going to go well with this relationship at that point. There were so many things that happen at once that it collided and came to one pass that we can just get through because we were so stuck. So we decide to join the program and it’s been just instrumental for both of us. When we first joined I know that I had the opportunity to experience Coaching before but he has not.
Some of the program highlights were taking inventory of where I’m at in the relationship. I love the way that you guys have so much compassion for honoring the space that everyone is in and the journey they are on. So it never felt like a competition or you had to be at a certain point. It was really fruitful and it came from so much of a place of love that helped me personally grow even more.
It was also nice to see you also sharing your experiences. Your struggles allowed us to be open about ours.
After going to the program, and even throughout the program, we found our communication got better. Well, we are still working on it, but it’s so much better. Our relationship is the strongest it’s ever been in the whole entire time we’ve been together. We’re able to hold more space for each other and recognize the needs of each other. We are also able to express our own needs and we broke the cycle of some of the things that we were doing that were ‘bad habits’, so to speak.
For anybody that’s looking at working with you guys and looking into the program that it is instrumental in helping you move forward and come together. Take the leap! Take the leap! We would do it over again, want more, and don’t want it to end!
Now that we’ve made friends too, with other people in other states as well. It’s truly like a community! Thank you so much. We appreciate you, Shona and Bob.”
Mike + Carissa
“Our experience working with Bob and Shona through the Love Incubator program was extremely positive. The program was a one stop shop for couples looking to focus on their relationship, grow together, and take away valuable tools for continued evolution. We researched many different opportunities before choosing the Love Incubator and are very happy with our decision.
Bob & Shona create a safe environment that breeds healthy vulnerability while also balancing those realistic tactics that provide results. After going through this program, we are more unified as a partnership, know ourselves better, and feel confident in the tools we've learned and can use whenever we need to reconnect, readjust, or recover as a couple.
If you and your partner are looking for a jump start to get your relationship on the right track AND you are ready to put in the work to see results, the Love Incubator is for you.”
Jeff Newcorn
“Each conversation has been impactful and touched my soul. They've been profound. How I carry myself has shifted from where I was a couple months ago. Without this work, and your help, I feel more physically and mentally fit. Thank you, thank you thank you for being my unconditional partner and taking a stand for me. I now have a new relationship with scarcity that serves me in terms of quality of life. It's one of the most profound things I've experienced in all my years of transformation. I've had progress in unexpected areas that has far reaching impact in so many areas. Far more came from this than I ever would have imagined. This is a clear exercise in reminding me of possibility and the extraordinary things that I'm capable of. I love you."
Kristoffer Carter (KC)
“Bob Conlin is a powerhouse coach and leader, full-stop. I've been coached by Bob over the past 12 months, and in that time I've tripled my own coaching practice, sold out my coaching client retreat, and delivered a successful TEDx talk. More importantly, Bob has helped me look deep within my own motivations (where I stop), and holds me to my Highest and Best. The breakthroughs we've achieved together will stay with me forever, as they affect my role as a Dad, Husband, and Shepherd and Teacher for my meditation students, coaching clients, and all my work impacts. Can't recommend Bob enough as a coach. He's a Badass. In fact, I just rehired him for another 6 months."
Robyn Kysiak
“Life coaching is different. Life coaching is, at its core, EMPOWERMENT. In the last 3 months, my weekly sessions with Shona have taught me more about who I am, than 18-years of therapy ever did. It has allowed me to focus on who I am NOW (while still understanding and recognizing how my past has shaped me) and who I WANT TO BE in the future.
After months of life coaching, I feel empowered for the first time in my life. The debilitating and relationship-damaging anxiety that I have suffered with my whole life is now manageable and almost non-existent. I no longer react to stressful work situations with fear and anxiety. I am learning to trust the people who are closest to me. I have better relationships with my family, husband, and most importantly, with myself. I have perspective. I have changed. I am empowered.”
Matt Maxwell
“Bob has made a tremendous difference in my life. He brings so much insight, wisdom, and heart to each coaching session. Coaching with him has opened an amazing new range of possibilities in my career, relationships, and overall enjoyment of life. I mean this earnestly: the rest of my life I will benefit from the transformation I’ve experienced working with him. If you’re on the fence: get off!”